When to Cut Cords
Cutting the cords will be necessary throughout your sessions. Whether it is used in childhood regression, past life regression, or with the clean-out, trust me — this is very powerful. It is especially powerful for people who have been divorced. Cutting the cords is very healing for all involved, and it can be done with a deceased person or with someone who is still alive. In both cases, your client will be talking to the other person's soul.
What the Cords Actually Are
Invisible ethereal cords develop over time between two people. These cords are energetic ties to each other. They are what let a mother know when her child is in danger. They are also what need to be cut in order to grow and move on.
These cords are never cords of love. They are cords of negative emotion, and each cord represents a defined negative emotion. It is important to explain how cords work before you begin to have your client cut them. Cutting a cord doesn't mean the person will leave your client's life; it just means there will no longer be negative emotions attached to them. You can't cut love. You wouldn't want to anyway. Love is love. Cords are a different thing.
How a Cord Grows
When you meet someone, a cord is formed — think of it as a thin string. Over time, when negative emotions come up, the string gets thicker. Other cords begin to grow as well. It is very important for both sides to cut these cords. It is an agreement to basically "let it go" and release each other from the karma that has built up. Karma is simply an even exchange of energy — you hurt me, I hurt you, and we both grow from the experience because we both have learned how it feels to hurt and be hurt. Cutting the cord negates the karma the two of you created together.
First, Clear the Air
Before you cut anything, clear the air. Once your client is speaking with the person they have had an issue with, ask them to stand directly in front of that person. Then invite them to say everything they have always wanted to say but were either too afraid or unable to say at the time. "Tell them everything in your mind and heart. You may yell or scream at them if you wish. Just get it out. Say it all." When they are done, ask if the other person has anything to say to your client. Usually the other party will explain why they did what they did and apologize. This is what your client needs to hear.
Naming Each Cord
Now name the cords. Say: "I want you to now see the cords of negative emotions that you have been holding onto. Each cord has its own negative emotion. There are no cords for love, and we wouldn't cut them anyway. Also, this doesn't cut them out of your life, but it will make you feel better." Then ask, "How many cords between you do you see?" And for each one: "What does the first (second, third, etc.) cord represent?"
You are listening for a negative emotion here — anger, fear, disappointment, betrayal, hatred, resentment, emotional pain and suffering, physical pain, disloyalty, guilt, rejection, abandonment, regret, insecurity, feeling trapped or stuck, manipulation, trauma, burden, blame, frustration, not being good enough. The list is endless.
Once a cord's emotion is named, have the conversation about that specific emotion before moving to the next. What would your client like to say to their father about feeling abandoned? Why did the father abandon his son? What would his father like to say to his son now? Work through every cord this way.
Making the Cut
When all the emotions have been spoken and heard, it's time to cut. Say: "Now it is time to cut the cords and release all these negative emotions you have been holding onto that you have been attracting into your life. Are you ready to cut the cords? Good. On the count of three, you will cut the cords and hold the ends up into the light and watch the fireworks show. Watch all your emotions release into the universe. Surrender them to the higher power/God." Then: "1, 2, 3 — cut the cords and hold the ends up into the light." Pause.
They can cut the cord any way they wish — scissors, a sword, their hands. Each cord they cut makes them feel lighter and lighter as they lift the heaviness of the negative emotion that has been keeping them down for so long.
The Fireworks and the Release
Then hold the ends up. Ask: "What does the fireworks show look like? Do you see what you have been holding onto? Doesn't it feel wonderful and lighter to release them?" Have them describe it. Say: "Good. Now, when the fireworks show ends, the cords will dissipate. Take a deep breath and blow it out of your mouth and feel lighter. How does that feel?"
That release is the moment the karma between them is negated for both sides. Your client walks out lighter. The other soul is released too. Now you're ready to send the loved one home into the light.
From My Practice — The Boyfriend Who Didn't Want the Cords Cut
A woman came to see me about weight loss, and in the intake conversation she mentioned a bad breakup with a boyfriend who had cheated on her more than once. I made a mental note to cut those cords. In trance he walked right into her garden, apologized, and asked for another chance — which she had no interest in giving. He did not want the cords cut. So I intervened. I had her tell him, soul to soul, that he would be better off learning from this and finding someone else, and that they could reconcile in the afterlife and try again in another lifetime. He was satisfied with that, and with the slice of her hand she cut the cord. She watched it drop to the ground, shrivel up, and dissipate. At her next visit she said she felt free of him — not one text, not one call — and that it was finally time to move on.
Notice two things. First, the other soul can refuse, and when that happens you ask what it needs, resolve that, and only then cut. If it still refuses, call in a higher power — Archangel Michael is very good for this. Second, this is why you never skip the clearing-the-air conversation. The cord came off easily because everything had already been said.
From My Practice — Seven Words in a Car
That same client still had a rocky relationship with her father. In a childhood regression we went back to a moment in the car when he told her that her belly fat was hanging over the seat belt. She was seven. Her self-esteem collapsed in that instant, and the belief that formed was not "Dad said something careless" — it was "I am unlovable, and if my own father can be that cruel, any man will hurt me too." Weight is a very good protective shield, and overeating is a very good way to suppress emotion. Both were working overtime to keep the weight on.
In the garden she confronted him and told him what that comment did to her life. He apologized — that had never been his intention, and he loved her very much. They cut the cords. Weeks later she told me her relationship with her dad had genuinely improved, and she had lost a significant amount of weight. When a client comes in for a symptom, stay curious about the belief the symptom is protecting.
From My Practice — The Sister, and the Ex Living Rent-Free
One client had a sister two states away who would rant and rage at her over things that were insignificant or untrue. A family event was coming up, and my client was in a panic about being in the same room with her. We cut the cords. At the party her sister never came near her, and my client had a wonderful time. You will see this again and again: cutting the cord changes the energy between two people even when only one of them is in your chair.
Another client could not stop the thought loops about her ex-husband — a man who had not worked in fifteen years under the guise of being a stay-at-home dad while she paid for everything, and who was now collecting alimony from her. As she put it, he was occupying too much real estate in her head, rent free, and she wanted him to move out. The financial ties remained; the energetic ones did not. We cut the cords and sent him packing, and the loops stopped.
From My Practice — Cutting the Cords With Yourself
A client came in glowing about a new relationship, then admitted she was already sabotaging it — anxious when he was slow to text, uneasy in his presence, certain she was not worthy of him. Her father had been unaffectionate and her mother had no self-esteem at all, and from very young she had been the only adult in the room. We cut the cords to her mother, her father, and three ex-lovers, and she felt the release.
Then we did the piece I want you to remember. I had her see her old self — the one who was never worthy, never good enough, never lovable — standing in front of her new self, full of confidence and worth. She saw the cords between them immediately. She cut the cords to the person she no longer needed to be, and she came out of that session empowered. You can always cut cords to a former version of your client. It is one of the most freeing things you will ever offer someone.
Practice
Write one full cord-cutting, start to finish. 1. Choose the kind of person a client is most likely to bring up — an ex, a parent, a sibling. 2. Write the invitation to clear the air between them. 3. Write the exact wording you use to name each cord as the client finds it. 4. Write your cutting count and the fireworks-show close. 5. Read the whole thing out loud until it flows without looking down.