Working With Fear
Almost every client has some sort of fear. When darkness represents fear, immediately ask, "Fear of what?" And then, "Where did this fear originate from?" You are looking to see if it started in this lifetime or a past lifetime. There is also the possibility of the fear starting in the womb and being their mother's fear passed down.
Ask the darkness to take your client to the significant event that caused the fear.
If it is in this lifetime, have your client describe the situation and what they are experiencing. It may be a roller coaster, standing on a stage, in a hospital, at an accident, being lost, or being left alone — there are hundreds of reasons why people experience fear. Have your client go into the fear. Feel it as deeply as possible. Bring it up as if it is happening right now. They are in the moment.
Tell your client to feel it so deeply, and it will naturally subside. Watch their facial expression and their breathing, and you will know when it has subsided. Then have the adult client go in and comfort the little self.
Rewriting the Scene
Imagine the scene without the fear. An example would be riding the roller coaster with younger self, but this time having so much fun doing it. Do this over and over again, being happier each time — at least three times. You can then cut the cords to the scene.
If the fear is from another lifetime, read about past life regression and then follow the above recommendation.
From My Practice — Fear of Flying Over Water
A client could fly anywhere over land but could not bear to fly over an ocean. When I asked the darkness to take her to where the fear began, she was a small child at a lake with her family, and she had gone under. She remembered the water closing over her head, the panic, and no one noticing for what felt like forever. Her body had drawn one conclusion: water means I am about to die and no one is coming.
We stayed in the fear until it subsided. Her adult self went in, pulled the little girl out, wrapped her up, and told her she was safe. Then we rewrote the scene — the same lake, the same family, and the child playing happily in the shallow water with her adult self right beside her. We ran it three times, better each time. Then we cut the cords to the scene, and I had her see herself in a window seat over the ocean, calm, looking down at the water with nothing but interest. She flew over water that summer.
The fear was never about airplanes. When a fear seems irrational, do not argue with it — find the moment it made perfect sense.
From My Practice — The Teenager Who Could Not Take a Shot
A teenage boy needed a series of injections and was terrified of needles to the point of nearly passing out. There was no dramatic origin story — just an early shot that hurt more than he expected, and a mother who was frightened on his behalf, which taught him that this was something to be frightened of. We do not always need a deep trauma. Sometimes we just need to replace the sensation.
I asked him for a sensation he already knew and did not fear. He landed on a wasp sting he had gotten the previous summer — sharp, over in a second, and something he had walked away from without thinking twice. So we practiced it: the nurse swabbing his arm, a quick sting like a wasp, and then it being over and him being fine. We ran it several times, and then had him see himself walking out of the appointment afterward, relieved and a little proud. He had the injections without incident.
That is future pacing. You are not lying to the body — you are giving it an accurate, tolerable reference for what is about to happen, and letting it use that file instead of the old one.
Working With Pain
Pain — When the darkness represents pain, it may be from an old injury, illness, or dis-ease. Most times the darkness wants to tell your client something and then it will leave. Once the darkness leaves, the client is no longer in pain.
Sometimes the pain is from another lifetime — this will be covered under Past Life Regression a little further on. Pain can also be a form of a life lesson one wanted to experience. It could be that one experiences pain to avoid living life fully, or as a karma payback to someone else.
Practice
Put the fear protocol on a card. 1. Write the six steps of the fear protocol on one index card in your own words. 2. Number them and keep the wording short enough to read at a glance. 3. Run the six steps aloud once on a fear of your own. 4. Prop the card next to your chair. In session you will glance, not read.