A Non-Leading Standard for the Most Tender Material
**Read this before the rest of the lesson.** These three presentations carry the highest risk of a practitioner accidentally supplying the content of the scene. Everything below is written to be led by the client, not by you. You do not name the image, assign it a meaning, decide what emotion the client "must" be carrying, speak on anyone's behalf, or steer the client toward a particular resolution. Your questions stay open: "What are you noticing?" "What does that represent to you?" "What would you like to do, if anything?" If you find yourself about to tell the client what something is, stop and ask instead.
Pregnancy Loss and Termination
When darkness appears in the womb area, tread lightly and stay curious. Ask the client what the image represents to them. Do not assume it is a baby, a soul, guilt, punishment, or unfinished spiritual business. Follow the client's own words, feelings, and beliefs. Do not introduce reincarnation, reunion, forgiveness, or sending a child into the Light unless the client's stated beliefs and spontaneous experience clearly support that direction.
If you have personal feelings about termination of a pregnancy, they stay outside the session. Your work is compassionate neutrality — not judgment, and equally not an assumption that the client feels guilt, grief, or relief. Let them tell you.
If the client's own experience takes a spiritual shape — a presence, a child, a conversation — you may follow it in their language, using their words for it. If they describe wanting to speak, apologize, say goodbye, or release something, support that. If they describe none of those things, do not manufacture them. A quiet release of the heaviness is a complete and successful outcome.
The same standard applies to miscarriage. Do not tell the client what a miscarried child "usually says," and do not supply an explanation such as changing its mind or wanting only the experience of conception. If the client reports something spontaneously, work with it in their words. If they report nothing, help them say whatever they need to say and let the heaviness go.
Rape and Assault
This work asks for great care and a slow pace. Before revisiting anything difficult, offer the client distance and let them choose it: they can view the scene from above, as though watching a film, or stay at whatever distance feels manageable — or decline the scene entirely. Ask them which they prefer, and honor the answer.
If the client becomes significantly distressed or moves outside their window of tolerance, stop the regression, orient them to the present, stabilize them, and refer when the material is outside your competence or scope. Continuing through mounting distress is not endurance training; it is harm.
Do not speak for the alleged perpetrator, manufacture an apology, suggest that the perpetrator feels remorse, or pressure the client toward forgiveness. The client may express anger, grief, boundaries, protest, silence, or anything else that arises. Forgiveness is never required for healing, and it is never your goal to produce.
What you can offer is the client's own voice. If they want to step into the scene as the adult they are today and say what was never said, support that. If they want to set a boundary, walk out, or simply take the child self and leave, support that too. Whatever arises for them is theirs; you are not the author of it.
And remember that survivors are of every gender. Do not be surprised when a man discloses sexual assault, including by a family member. Meet it with the same steadiness.
Cutting the Cords
When the client has said what they came to say, cut the cords. Each cord holds a feeling. Go through every one and make sure the cord actually cuts. If it does not cut all the way through, there is still something the client wants to express. Continue until every cord is severed — and never insist on a cord that the client is not ready to cut.
Comforting Little Self
Then turn to little self, if the client's experience includes one. Have your client comfort them in their own way — reassurance, protection, an apology for the years of not listening. Say, "Give little you a kiss and a hug. Hug him or her so tight. Give them the best hug in the whole world — the kind of hug you wish you had gotten when this happened to you."
This is very powerful. It is essentially loving themselves, often for the first time. Give them time to finish, then say, "Hug them so tight that you actually hug them right into your heart, where they will stay happy and joyful and protected and safe. How does that feel?"
Then go back to the lounge chair or the hammock and ask the dark cloud above them if there is anything else. If there is, work it the same way. If not, let the heaviness go into the light and dissipate.
Practice
Write your non-leading language and your stop script. 1. For each of the three cases, write the open, non-leading questions you would use. 2. Write the exact words you use to ask what something in the womb area represents to the client, without naming it yourself. 3. Write how you offer a survivor a choice of distance before any scene begins. 4. Write your stop-and-stabilize script word for word: what you say when a client moves past their window of tolerance. 5. Read all of it aloud until it is steady in your mouth. This is the material you cannot improvise.