1. Say: “It is time to heal little you. I want you to go over to little you and comfort him/her. Tell little you it wasn’t their fault. Talk to little you as if it were your child. This is the first step to loving yourself. I know it is hard, but you will feel so much lighter. Tell little you that you understand how little you is feeling. You can see it now from a different perspective.
2. “Tell little you that you didn’t know they were was still feeling the pain from that time.
3. “Apologize for ignoring them. You didn’t know. You didn’t want to face the pain again, but didn’t realize little you was still feeling it. Promise little you that you will protect them from now on. No one will ever make them feel this way again. Tell little you how much you love them. Make them feel loved, possibly for the first time.”
4. Say: “Tell little you it is never going to happen again because big you will protect them now.”
5. Encourage your clients to visualize themselves facing their inner child. Prompt them to speak to their younger selves with empathy and tenderness, as if comforting a beloved child.
6. Say: “Apologize to little self.”
7. When they say they are sorry Ask: “What are your sorry for?” Then prompt them for being sorry for ignoring the inner child. Guide them to apologize for neglecting their inner child's needs and reassure them that they're here now to provide the love and support they crave. By fostering this connection with their inner child, clients can begin to heal old wounds and cultivate a sense of self-love and acceptance. Remember, as a therapist, your role is to facilitate this journey of healing and transformation. Next, have your client hug and kiss little self.
8. Say: “Give little -you a kiss and hug. Hug them so tight. Give them the best hug in the whole world—the kind of hug you wish you had gotten when that happened to you! ”This is very powerful. It is essentially loving themselves, and usually for the first time. Give them time here to finish hugging.
9. Say: “Hug them so tight that you actually hug them right into your heart, where they will stay happy and joyful and protected and safe. How does that feel? Comforting? Safe? Lighter?” 10.Say: “Now go back to the lounge chair and ask if the darkness is ready to leave.” Usually it is. If not, it wants to show your client another experience. Follow it through the same way. You may not be able to get to all the dark spots, and clients may need to return to continue the clean-out.