When to Use This
Use this when the loved one who comes forward died by suicide. Your client is usually carrying guilt, anger, and unanswered questions. Move gently, ask permission at every step, and remember your scope: you are facilitating a conversation, never diagnosing or treating grief.
The Script
1. Before you invite them in, prepare your client: "Someone can come to you today in full health and peace. You may hear things that surprise you. Whatever comes, you are safe, and I am right here with you. Would you like to invite them in?"
2. "Good. Here he is. Look at him. How does he look now? Is he at peace?" Let them describe him. Clients are often astonished to find them well.
3. "Say hello. Go to him if you want to. Take your time."
4. "Ask him: did you mean for this to happen, or was it an accident?" Listen, and have the client repeat the answer out loud.
5. "Ask him: how did you die? When? Where? Was anyone else involved?" Do not lead. Let the answers come from him.
6. "Ask him: what happened immediately after you crossed over? What did you see?"
7. "Ask him: did you go into the light?" If the answer is no, take him through the Going Into the Light script before you go any further.
8. "Now say everything you have been holding since that day. The anger, the questions, the things you wish you had said. All of it. I will wait."
9. (Wait. Do not interrupt. Tears here are welcome.) "Is there anything else?"
10. "Ask him: do you have any messages for anyone — for me, or for anyone else in the family?"
11. "Ask him: what advice do you have for me now?"
12. "Ask him: was there anything I could have done?" Let him answer. This is usually where the guilt finally lifts.
13. If guilt, blame, or anger remains, move into the Cutting Cords script with him right in front of them, and remember: you cut the pain, never the love.
14. "Tell him you love him. Say goodbye for now, and know you can visit him here whenever you wish."
Practitioner Notes
These sessions carry a great deal of grief. Stay steady, keep your voice soft, and never fill their silence. Your role is to facilitate the conversation and the release — not to diagnose, not to treat, and not to interpret. If your client shows any sign of active suicidal intent themselves — a plan, a means, a timeframe, or a stated intention to act — stop the process, connect them immediately with crisis and mental-health care, and stay with them until they are safe. Suicidal thoughts without active intent still call for professional referral first; only after that, and only if their beliefs allow it, may spiritual comfort be offered.