The Ruler and the Alcoholic
I had a client who was fighting alcoholism. His older brother and father were both deceased. When we began by going back into his tormented childhood, he recounted his father sodomizing him and then teaching his brother how to sodomize him. At the beach, he brought in his father and not only told him off but also cut the cords. His father begged him to accept his apology, stating his own father did it to him — a fact my client never knew. We are all victims of victims.
In a past lifetime, my client was a rich and powerful ruler. He had many children at his disposal and, not surprisingly, one of those children he was abusing was his father in this lifetime. Now he was the one who had to apologize to his father. Seeing this from another perspective gave a lot of relief to my client.
Releasing Pain That Began in Another Life
If "pain" came from a past life, once the client sees where it came from, they can release it or cut the cords to that event. I have had many of these types of situations, and you will too. You just have to go deep enough into being a detective to find the true initial event.
Closing the Lifetime
Once the significant event is dealt with and the client is finished with that lifetime, have them cut the cords to that lifetime and send everyone into the light to heal. Then go back to the lounge chair and ask if the darkness is ready to leave. Let it go.
From My Practice — The Woman Who Was Burned in Her Own House
A client came to me with a lifelong dread of being seen — she was capable and gifted and could not make herself step forward in her own life. In the clean-out the darkness in her throat took her not to childhood but to a lifetime in a small village where she was known as the woman people came to for healing, and where, when the mood of the village turned, she was accused, locked in her house, and burned in it. What she carried out of that lifetime was simple and precise: if I am visible, and if I use this gift, they will kill me.
Her present-life throat tightness and her terror of being known suddenly made sense to her. We stayed with the fear until it released, and then she spoke to the villagers, and to the one who led them, and heard the fear underneath what they had done. We cut the cords to the lifetime, to the house, and to the vow she had made as she died. She sent them all into the light. Then I had her stand in front of a room of people in this life, using her gift, safe, and watched her face change.
Two things worth naming. Clients often bring back an oath or a vow — never again, never be seen, never trust, never love — and that vow needs to be spoken out loud and released, not just noticed. And you will hear stories that are hard to sit with. Your job is not to verify a lifetime; it is to let the emotion move, cut the cords, and bring the light in.
Real-World Session Example — The Writer Who Could Not Pick Up a Pen
A client I will call Marcy came to me feeling stuck. She was a gifted writer, married to a well-known author, and had written forewords for other people's books — yet she could not write her own. "I know I have a book inside of me," she said, "but when it comes to writing my own story, I can't even pick up a pen." Nothing in this lifetime explained it, so I took her back.
She dropped into deep relaxation almost immediately, and her descriptions came in short, clipped sentences, as they usually do. "I see a huge stone building. Tall doors. I'm walking on a dirt path through the trees. I have no shoes on." I moved her forward to where she was going. It was a wartime hospital. She was a nun who held the hands of dying soldiers. Then she found her husband from this lifetime there, in a different body — a boy of seventeen or eighteen, dying, with no family left, who wanted to believe in God and could not. She prayed with him, put a wooden cross in his hand, and stayed until his breathing went shallow and stopped. Worth noting: in this lifetime, that same soul writes inspirational books about the Source.
I took her to the next significant event in that lifetime and she found herself in a jail cell holding children on her lap. Then her head lowered as though she were looking at her hands, and she began to cry. "I see my hands. I have no thumbs. They cut them off. I wrote about peace, love and acceptance. They didn't like what I was writing — they felt I was writing against them, so they cut off my thumbs." Then a bright light, and they all died.
The Afterlife Insight — Where the Answer Actually Came
Do not stop at the death. Following the soul into the afterlife is one of the most important parts of the therapy, because in the afterlife the client knows, and the reasons for the life are communicated clearly. Marcy followed her soul up and found her grandmother waiting with many others. When I asked her to consider her life's purpose, she went quiet, and then said: "To promote peace and love. Everyone can have it. I will write books. Many of them. I write to promote consciousness, to allow God within."
Now the block had a shape, so I gave the suggestion precisely: having her thumbs cut off happened in another lifetime; in this lifetime it is safe to promote peace, love, and acceptance; in this life she has thumbs, and her thumbs let her hold a pen and write the story within her — and when she begins, the words will flow onto the paper as if through a divine process.
She emerged renewed, sat with it a moment, and then the realization landed. She looked down at her hands and smiled. "I have thumbs now!"
Notice the structure, because it is the structure you will use again and again: a present-life block with no present-life cause, a lifetime that names the cost of doing the exact thing they are blocked from doing, the death, the afterlife where the purpose is stated plainly by the client, and a suggestion built out of the client's own words rather than yours.
Practice
Work one lifetime like a detective. 1. Think of a current relationship in your own life that feels charged for no obvious reason. 2. Sit in stillness and ask what the soul-level agreement between you might be. 3. Write down what came, without editing it. 4. Now write the three questions you would have asked a client in that same scene, and the wording you would use to cut the cords and bring in the light.