When the loved one comes forward in the garden, always begin by asking, "Did you go into the light when you crossed over?" With a suicide the answer is very often no. Don't panic and don't push. Simply say, "That's okay. We're going to help them cross today."
Give the soul a chance to speak first. Ask your client what their loved one wants them to know. Suicide victims almost always have something they urgently need to say — some version of "I'm sorry," "It wasn't your fault," "I didn't know how much pain I would leave behind," or "I was not in my right mind." Let those words come through without rushing or interpreting.
Then let your client speak back. Encourage them to say everything they never got to say — the goodbye they were denied, the anger they were not allowed to express, the love they assumed was understood. "Tell them now. They can hear you."
If there are cords of negative emotion between them — guilt, blame, anger, abandonment — cut them the same way you cut any other cord, one emotion at a time, then the fireworks show, then release into the light.
Now send the soul home. Tell your client, "Tell them to look up." Ask, "What do they see?" At first they will see only the sky. Then the sky opens and they will see either their loved ones who have already crossed, or a Master. Tell your client it is time now — the loved ones have been waiting. Instruct the soul to go up into the light, and have your client watch them return home.
If the soul hesitates — "I don't deserve it," "I'm afraid," "I don't want to leave you" — bring in help in the client's own belief system. "Let's ask Jesus to come stand with him. Let's ask Grandma to come take her hand." Souls who refuse to go alone will almost always go when someone they trust comes to walk them home.
Sending them home is an act of kindness. This will be a common theme throughout all your sessions, so keep the words "Look up" close — you will use them constantly.
Practice
Write out, in your own voice, the full sequence you would use with a client whose brother died by suicide: the opening check, the invitation to speak, the cord-cutting, the look-up, and the send-off. Read it aloud until it flows without notes.